Comments on: Home is where the housework is http://www.knitsisters.com/2006/09/27/housework/ Watch out. We've got sharp sticks. Fri, 18 May 2012 01:04:43 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: Wanda http://www.knitsisters.com/2006/09/27/housework/#comment-731 Wanda Sun, 08 Oct 2006 10:48:56 +0000 http://www.knitsisters.com/2006/09/27/housework/#comment-731 Heck, I'll take some credit. Ask him what it was like growing up; who did what. Heh. - N. Machiavelli Heck, I’ll take some credit. Ask him what it was like growing up; who did what. Heh. - N. Machiavelli

]]> By: Tope http://www.knitsisters.com/2006/09/27/housework/#comment-701 Tope Sun, 01 Oct 2006 23:24:48 +0000 http://www.knitsisters.com/2006/09/27/housework/#comment-701 David is much better at getting his chores done than I am. No need to abandon hope yet! David is much better at getting his chores done than I am. No need to abandon hope yet!

]]> By: laura http://www.knitsisters.com/2006/09/27/housework/#comment-695 laura Fri, 29 Sep 2006 23:16:42 +0000 http://www.knitsisters.com/2006/09/27/housework/#comment-695 well, my husband regularly leaves coffee mugs in the SHOWER and trash in the KITCHEN SINK and i can't even remember the last time he spontaneously cleaned something. he was a slob before we got married, and i should have realized he would always be a slob. i think that if alex is reasonably responsible in this area now, he'll probably stay that way. plus, he seems like an extra-nice guy. well, my husband regularly leaves coffee mugs in the SHOWER and trash in the KITCHEN SINK and i can’t even remember the last time he spontaneously cleaned something. he was a slob before we got married, and i should have realized he would always be a slob. i think that if alex is reasonably responsible in this area now, he’ll probably stay that way. plus, he seems like an extra-nice guy.

]]> By: Bronwyn http://www.knitsisters.com/2006/09/27/housework/#comment-689 Bronwyn Fri, 29 Sep 2006 02:16:46 +0000 http://www.knitsisters.com/2006/09/27/housework/#comment-689 This was my experience also. I did have a good man, when it came to chores; he would generally pick up if I was excited about it. I.e., I get home and say, "Wow! Who cleaned up? Thank you, babe!" But unpleasant tasks got left for me. I would go with talking about what each of you absoultely DOES NOT want to do, then get someone to just do those things for you. It worked out okay for us, because he hates laundry (I love it) and I HATE dishes (he didn't mind it). The relationship didn't work out for other reasons, but I've found if you expect him to do his share, and be encouraging when he does, it works out fine. Should we have to do all that work for a clean house? No. But constantly arguing about it (or worse, simmering til you boil over) breaks down the relationship. And of course, do your share! This was my experience also. I did have a good man, when it came to chores; he would generally pick up if I was excited about it. I.e., I get home and say, “Wow! Who cleaned up? Thank you, babe!” But unpleasant tasks got left for me. I would go with talking about what each of you absoultely DOES NOT want to do, then get someone to just do those things for you. It worked out okay for us, because he hates laundry (I love it) and I HATE dishes (he didn’t mind it). The relationship didn’t work out for other reasons, but I’ve found if you expect him to do his share, and be encouraging when he does, it works out fine. Should we have to do all that work for a clean house? No. But constantly arguing about it (or worse, simmering til you boil over) breaks down the relationship. And of course, do your share!

]]> By: Diane http://www.knitsisters.com/2006/09/27/housework/#comment-680 Diane Thu, 28 Sep 2006 00:42:36 +0000 http://www.knitsisters.com/2006/09/27/housework/#comment-680 I have found that I need to ask DH to help out. He will, but it just doesn't occur to him to do on his own. I have found that I need to ask DH to help out. He will, but it just doesn’t occur to him to do on his own.

]]> By: Blogless Kim http://www.knitsisters.com/2006/09/27/housework/#comment-679 Blogless Kim Thu, 28 Sep 2006 00:10:09 +0000 http://www.knitsisters.com/2006/09/27/housework/#comment-679 Just wanted to weigh in with my experience. Our roles have changed since we've been married, but I wouldn't say that they've become worse. How do you say....well, we end up playing chicken, each according to our own schedule. If I'm busy, then I don't get my laundry done. If he's busy, he might run out of underwear. And if the other isn't busy, you might get a gift of clean laundry. As for cleaning (i.e., bathrooms), we hired a cleaner, because neither of us wanted to do it. And clutter? Well, let's just say we play chicken with that too. Whoever is bugged the most, clears it or stacks it, or puts it on the clutter owner's side of the bed. On top. The mystery is how many things appear in my house that don't seem to "belong" to anyone - flyers about a concert? Well, they should stay on the counter where we'll see it. Until it gets buried. Was that your flyer or mine? Nobody's. Ugh. Date passes, and then if we're lucky, we do archeaology and throw it out. Just wanted to weigh in with my experience. Our roles have changed since we’ve been married, but I wouldn’t say that they’ve become worse. How do you say….well, we end up playing chicken, each according to our own schedule. If I’m busy, then I don’t get my laundry done. If he’s busy, he might run out of underwear. And if the other isn’t busy, you might get a gift of clean laundry. As for cleaning (i.e., bathrooms), we hired a cleaner, because neither of us wanted to do it. And clutter? Well, let’s just say we play chicken with that too. Whoever is bugged the most, clears it or stacks it, or puts it on the clutter owner’s side of the bed. On top. The mystery is how many things appear in my house that don’t seem to “belong” to anyone - flyers about a concert? Well, they should stay on the counter where we’ll see it. Until it gets buried. Was that your flyer or mine? Nobody’s. Ugh. Date passes, and then if we’re lucky, we do archeaology and throw it out.

]]> By: Evanesce http://www.knitsisters.com/2006/09/27/housework/#comment-678 Evanesce Wed, 27 Sep 2006 22:45:06 +0000 http://www.knitsisters.com/2006/09/27/housework/#comment-678 Hmm, I couldn't figure out where to e-mail this to, so... I thought you might enjoy this video if you haven't seen it already ^^ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M6ZjMWLqJvM Take care, ~LAEvanesce Hmm, I couldn’t figure out where to e-mail this to, so… I thought you might enjoy this video if you haven’t seen it already ^^

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M6ZjMWLqJvM

Take care,

~LAEvanesce

]]> By: Ruth Spears http://www.knitsisters.com/2006/09/27/housework/#comment-677 Ruth Spears Wed, 27 Sep 2006 19:31:23 +0000 http://www.knitsisters.com/2006/09/27/housework/#comment-677 Things will MOST definitely change after marriage. It doesn't matter how enlightened men appear to be (you work, he works, we split the housework, etc.) that will disappear after you say I do. It might be slowly, but it will go. They have this gene, you know, woman keeps house!!! man does "manly" things - which include watching TV constantly with occasional questions about where his meals are. My husband and I had this deal - he did the laundry (by which I mean the towels and jeans and his underwear because he sorts "dirty" and "clean". So you can see NOTHING important of mine goes in there.) and I would do the cooking. He has since tried to sidestep the laundry. My solution is to 1.) just leave the washer til it overflows; and 2.) cook less and less and have sandwiches a lot. But the most important thing we (I) decided right away - hire a housekeeper (maid, whatever). I'm willing to spend one day's wages to pay to have the house cleaned once a week. Although we have our own business and it comes out of petty cash. It's absolutely the best money I have ever spent. It also avoids any fusses about what's not done cause I just blame it on her! Ruth Things will MOST definitely change after marriage. It doesn’t matter how enlightened men appear to be (you work, he works, we split the housework, etc.) that will disappear after you say I do. It might be slowly, but it will go. They have this gene, you know, woman keeps house!!! man does “manly” things - which include watching TV constantly with occasional questions about where his meals are. My husband and I had this deal - he did the laundry (by which I mean the towels and jeans and his underwear because he sorts “dirty” and “clean”. So you can see NOTHING important of mine goes in there.) and I would do the cooking. He has since tried to sidestep the laundry. My solution is to 1.) just leave the washer til it overflows; and 2.) cook less and less and have sandwiches a lot. But the most important thing we (I) decided right away - hire a housekeeper (maid, whatever). I’m willing to spend one day’s wages to pay to have the house cleaned once a week. Although we have our own business and it comes out of petty cash. It’s absolutely the best money I have ever spent.
It also avoids any fusses about what’s not done cause I just blame it on her!
Ruth

]]> By: lorinda http://www.knitsisters.com/2006/09/27/housework/#comment-676 lorinda Wed, 27 Sep 2006 19:21:10 +0000 http://www.knitsisters.com/2006/09/27/housework/#comment-676 Yay Alex! Woo hoo!!! Chocolate cake and port for everyone! Chores, hmmmmmmmm. I'm going to go with hire a maid. Although my dad has always done chores, but he's an anomaly. Here's a thought. Alex does chores; Ellen knits him cool stuff. Alex doesn't do chores; Ellen knits cool stuff for herself. Either way, Ellen gets to knit cool stuff, and when one is knitting it is easy to ignore dust bunnies and dishes overtaking the house. And think of how much yarn you would have acquired had you not had a yarn deprivation policy. Yay Alex! Woo hoo!!! Chocolate cake and port for everyone!

Chores, hmmmmmmmm. I’m going to go with hire a maid. Although my dad has always done chores, but he’s an anomaly.

Here’s a thought. Alex does chores; Ellen knits him cool stuff. Alex doesn’t do chores; Ellen knits cool stuff for herself. Either way, Ellen gets to knit cool stuff, and when one is knitting it is easy to ignore dust bunnies and dishes overtaking the house.

And think of how much yarn you would have acquired had you not had a yarn deprivation policy.

]]> By: Mother http://www.knitsisters.com/2006/09/27/housework/#comment-675 Mother Wed, 27 Sep 2006 19:14:41 +0000 http://www.knitsisters.com/2006/09/27/housework/#comment-675 Noticed that yesterday Sarah's post was TRUE CONFESSIONS. This response probably falls under that title also. Before Daddy and I were married, I occasionally played golf with him. I had my own set of clubs--secondhand though they were. But once we were married, I never set foot on another golf course intending to play. I have walked a few rounds with him. Perhaps that's the other side of the failure-to-do-housework-after-marriage controversy. Although golf never comes around as often as floors are dusty or toilets unhealthily dirty Congrats on your orals, Alex! You done good! Noticed that yesterday Sarah’s post was TRUE CONFESSIONS. This response probably falls under that title also.
Before Daddy and I were married, I occasionally played golf with him. I had my own set of clubs–secondhand though they were. But once we were married, I never set foot on another golf course intending to play. I have walked a few rounds with him.
Perhaps that’s the other side of the failure-to-do-housework-after-marriage controversy. Although golf never comes around as often as floors are dusty or toilets unhealthily dirty
Congrats on your orals, Alex! You done good!

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