Comments on: Going bridal http://www.knitsisters.com/2007/05/10/going_bridal/ Watch out. We've got sharp sticks. Sun, 12 Oct 2008 05:26:25 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.3 by: Sherlock's DaD http://www.knitsisters.com/2007/05/10/going_bridal/#comment-9054 Mon, 21 May 2007 23:35:40 +0000 http://www.knitsisters.com/2007/05/10/going_bridal/#comment-9054 You use the term "utter bollocks" in your initial posting. Are utter bollocks things or a place? Isn't utter bollocks near Lodi, California? You use the term “utter bollocks” in your initial posting. Are utter bollocks things or a place? Isn’t utter bollocks near Lodi, California?

]]> by: Lacey http://www.knitsisters.com/2007/05/10/going_bridal/#comment-8853 Thu, 17 May 2007 23:28:48 +0000 http://www.knitsisters.com/2007/05/10/going_bridal/#comment-8853 That feeling has nothing to be with being almost 40. I'm only 23 and I have almost zero desire to get married and be judged and reproduce. I am not one to fantasize about the white dress, big party, and huge cake. All that gives me the heeby jeebies. And my mom who is almost 50 is getting married on the 19th of May, this weekend. She's placid coming up to the big day. Like it's just another Saturday and just another party to have. I don't know. I think I've been all willy about this as of late because I never thought my mom would get married (again) before me. Strange time and a strange world. That feeling has nothing to be with being almost 40. I’m only 23 and I have almost zero desire to get married and be judged and reproduce. I am not one to fantasize about the white dress, big party, and huge cake. All that gives me the heeby jeebies.

And my mom who is almost 50 is getting married on the 19th of May, this weekend. She’s placid coming up to the big day. Like it’s just another Saturday and just another party to have. I don’t know.

I think I’ve been all willy about this as of late because I never thought my mom would get married (again) before me. Strange time and a strange world.

]]> by: Joyce H. http://www.knitsisters.com/2007/05/10/going_bridal/#comment-8731 Mon, 14 May 2007 22:56:27 +0000 http://www.knitsisters.com/2007/05/10/going_bridal/#comment-8731 P.S. # 2 I'm afraid that 60 years ago I would needed the "gender role issue" explained to me. (It wasn't easy being "green".) "How the times have changed"..........an expression used by my grandma! JH P.S. # 2
I’m afraid that 60 years ago I would needed the “gender role issue”
explained to me. (It wasn’t easy being “green”.)
“How the times have changed”……….an expression used by my grandma!
JH

]]> by: Joyce H. http://www.knitsisters.com/2007/05/10/going_bridal/#comment-8727 Mon, 14 May 2007 21:41:28 +0000 http://www.knitsisters.com/2007/05/10/going_bridal/#comment-8727 As an OLD friend from your distant past -small town days, may I add a few heartfelt words to those of other "bloggers". (And since I am 81 plus, I am proud to even know what constitutes a blog.) I was married 60 years ago on June 1, 1947. As an orphan raised by a 70 year old grandmother, my girlhood dream was to walk down the aisle in a white satin gown---(yes, I was a virgin) be a "good" wife and have 10 children!! (I might add here that after the first baby came--that number was lowered considerably!) My dress was made by a dear friend--spring flowers came from the lawns of church members--and the reception would never have met the standards of sister Sarah; but my dream did come true! It is a different time and a different age. I was ME and you are definitely YOU. I like that YOU! You are an extremely bright, talented modern YOUNG women. Relax! Enjoy! and I'm sure all will go well. P.S. I'm 81 years of age-- and I still don't know how to KNIT!!!!!! As an OLD friend from your distant past -small town days, may I add a
few heartfelt words to those of other “bloggers”. (And since I am 81 plus,
I am proud to even know what constitutes a blog.)
I was married 60 years ago on June 1, 1947.
As an orphan raised by a 70 year old grandmother, my girlhood dream
was to walk down the aisle in a white satin gown—(yes, I was a virgin) be a “good” wife and have 10 children!! (I might add here that after the first baby came–that number was lowered considerably!)
My dress was made by a dear friend–spring flowers came from the lawns
of church members–and the reception would never have met the standards
of sister Sarah; but my dream did come true!
It is a different time and a different age. I was ME and you are definitely
YOU. I like that YOU! You are an extremely bright, talented modern
YOUNG women.

Relax! Enjoy! and I’m sure all will go well.

P.S. I’m 81 years of age– and I still don’t know how to KNIT!!!!!!

]]> by: Helen http://www.knitsisters.com/2007/05/10/going_bridal/#comment-8700 Mon, 14 May 2007 13:11:03 +0000 http://www.knitsisters.com/2007/05/10/going_bridal/#comment-8700 Cultural anthropologist here with a little tough love for the bride. So you fall short of an archetype. You're not young and dewy enough, fertile enough, thin enough, feminine enough. People are going to judge you in that beautiful wedding dress you've chosen. People are going to tear you down because you don't conform to our culture's idea of The Bride. It's really a lot more about you and choosing to value who you are and your life choices. It's also about letting go of control. Your wedding day will come and you will get married. Fly your freak flag high. People always admire that so much more than conformity. -Helen Cultural anthropologist here with a little tough love for the bride.

So you fall short of an archetype. You’re not young and dewy enough, fertile enough, thin enough, feminine enough. People are going to judge you in that beautiful wedding dress you’ve chosen. People are going to tear you down because you don’t conform to our culture’s idea of The Bride.

It’s really a lot more about you and choosing to value who you are and your life choices. It’s also about letting go of control.

Your wedding day will come and you will get married. Fly your freak flag high. People always admire that so much more than conformity.

-Helen

]]> by: Theresa http://www.knitsisters.com/2007/05/10/going_bridal/#comment-8669 Sun, 13 May 2007 15:48:11 +0000 http://www.knitsisters.com/2007/05/10/going_bridal/#comment-8669 I'm doing some atypical wedding planning myself. While there's a traditional family-and-friends shindig in the works, because of my fiance's military deployment, we're getting married about 9 months before our wedding. It really strips it down to the basics - what is the most important part of it all? It's the being together and having the whole world know we have a right to that. Puts the flower dilemnas way into the background. I’m doing some atypical wedding planning myself. While there’s a traditional family-and-friends shindig in the works, because of my fiance’s military deployment, we’re getting married about 9 months before our wedding. It really strips it down to the basics - what is the most important part of it all? It’s the being together and having the whole world know we have a right to that. Puts the flower dilemnas way into the background.

]]> by: Carolyn J. http://www.knitsisters.com/2007/05/10/going_bridal/#comment-8632 Sat, 12 May 2007 18:09:49 +0000 http://www.knitsisters.com/2007/05/10/going_bridal/#comment-8632 Yeah, what Gypsy said! I tore up the Wedding Book and chucked it in the recycling bin. Went and got some papers signed at the Law Courts, and that was that. Anyway DON'T put that mint in the ground, whatever else you do! It spreads like wildfire, it will choke out other plants and you'll never be rid of it. Yeah, what Gypsy said! I tore up the Wedding Book and chucked it in the recycling bin. Went and got some papers signed at the Law Courts, and that was that.

Anyway DON’T put that mint in the ground, whatever else you do! It spreads like wildfire, it will choke out other plants and you’ll never be rid of it.

]]> by: Gypsy http://www.knitsisters.com/2007/05/10/going_bridal/#comment-8604 Sat, 12 May 2007 05:42:52 +0000 http://www.knitsisters.com/2007/05/10/going_bridal/#comment-8604 Actually, I think disliking the whole bride thing is much more basic than what you described. Many of us (like me) really, really don't like being the center of attention. Actually, I think disliking the whole bride thing is much more basic than what you described. Many of us (like me) really, really don’t like being the center of attention.

]]> by: Kristy http://www.knitsisters.com/2007/05/10/going_bridal/#comment-8588 Sat, 12 May 2007 04:00:30 +0000 http://www.knitsisters.com/2007/05/10/going_bridal/#comment-8588 I agree with Marsha-- and also, I love going to weddings because it's a good chance to eat cake, drink, and dance. It's hard for me to turn that down :) I think it's the most fun to remember how happy a bride looks. That shines through everything else. I agree with Marsha– and also, I love going to weddings because it’s a good chance to eat cake, drink, and dance. It’s hard for me to turn that down :)

I think it’s the most fun to remember how happy a bride looks. That shines through everything else.

]]> by: Marsha http://www.knitsisters.com/2007/05/10/going_bridal/#comment-8514 Fri, 11 May 2007 20:04:52 +0000 http://www.knitsisters.com/2007/05/10/going_bridal/#comment-8514 I have attended many weddings of the children of my friends and business associates and it doesn't bother me one iota that the bride and groom may not know who I am. I go to weddings to participate in this ancient ritual that reaffirms the hope that springs eternal in our human hearts - that love will conquer all. That despite the divorce statistics and the domestic abuse statistics and the choice of many to just live together, when two people, of whatever age and whatever history decide to make a public commitment to each other, before their family and friends, and yes, before God - well, it gives each of us hope. Maybe, despite the angst and stress and societal forces that seem to erode even the best of relationships, maybe this union will be especially blessed and love will see the couple through the hard times and challenges. And believe me, "in sickness and in health, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer," that pretty well covers it. People aren't going to be there to judge you or your dress or your hair style or your choice of reception food. They are there because it is a chance to say yes to love, to goodness, to all things that are pure and joyful and hopeful about our human experience. I have attended many weddings of the children of my friends and business associates and it doesn’t bother me one iota that the bride and groom may not know who I am. I go to weddings to participate in this ancient ritual that reaffirms the hope that springs eternal in our human hearts - that love will conquer all. That despite the divorce statistics and the domestic abuse statistics and the choice of many to just live together, when two people, of whatever age and whatever history decide to make a public commitment to each other, before their family and friends, and yes, before God - well, it gives each of us hope. Maybe, despite the angst and stress and societal forces that seem to erode even the best of relationships, maybe this union will be especially blessed and love will see the couple through the hard times and challenges. And believe me, “in sickness and in health, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer,” that pretty well covers it. People aren’t going to be there to judge you or your dress or your hair style or your choice of reception food. They are there because it is a chance to say yes to love, to goodness, to all things that are pure and joyful and hopeful about our human experience.

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